Sexless Relationship? Hidden Asexuality Causes It.

Sexless relationship? Is your partner playing hard to get or are they asexual?

Sexless relationship

It could be that your sexless relationship is the result of asexuality. You or your partner may be asexually inclined and didn’t even know it!

Libido is a very personal thing. Some of us have more of it and others have less. Sexual attraction, frequency of sex and sexual preferences can make the trip to heaven a little rocky. The map to paradise is made even more adventurous when asexuality’s road is added to it and then runs parallel to our own.

About one percent of the population is said to be asexual. That’s about the same as all the other non-hetero types. It’s regularly overlooked because there’s an understanding in general society that a couple’s sexual problem lies with their intimacy. It’s rarely an individual’s sexual identity that’s at fault.

We’re geared up to believe that sex between adults should be wild and chandelier-swinging. It’s so hardwired that our default setting never considers sex’s opposite. A sexless relationship is wrong.

Sex is NOT for everyone. Asexuals don’t experience sexual attraction. They don’t need sex. It’s not an illness. It’s not a fad. It’s just their sexuality type.

[There is a lot more detailed information about asexuality on this specialist asexuality website ]

And it’s not about not having good sex with a partner. It’s not about not having a caring and sensitive one either. It’s not about the partner at all. These are all legitimate reasons. They just happen to be an asexual’s go-to reasons when nothing else makes much sense.

ss1Asexuality is simply a sexual type, like gay or lesbian. The asexual requires nil sex. A sexless relationship (or a near sexual relationship) occurs with anyone they are partnered to.

If you’re the partner to an asexual then this is great news. You’re not at fault. You’re not the cause the sexless relationship. You’ve simply encountered an asexual who tried very hard to live a normal life pattern by having a normal relationship. It caught up with them. Their opposite expected physical intimacy to be part of the deal and that’s not working out well for both of you.

Sometimes asexuality can take a while to be discovered. Sometimes it’s never found because pride, bone headedness or even religious tradition blocks the way. That fact is, we assume sex is for all of us – always!

If you have a sexless relationship and you’re having therapy for it, ask your specialist to consider the possibility of asexuality. If they dismiss your concerns too quickly, stick to your guns. Relationship counsellors are people too. They live in the same sexually-fuelled society you do. It’s likely that they’re trapped in a bubble of disbelief, preferring to look at other things that might cause the problem and nothing else.

Remember: It wasn’t too long ago we didn’t accept same-sex lifestyles. Tradition had us believing love was only meant to be between a man and a woman.

love

Asexuality is also real. We have to come to terms with it. Sexless relationships and asexuality are intrinsicly tied together. When one exists, the other is often nearby. The question you’re probably asking is: How would I know for sure?

The site link I provided earlier gives clues although there are no definitive one-word answers. Independently, no single clue has the power to diagnose asexuality. They are only pointer-statements and are meant to be combined. Readers must make cluster-outcomes with the advice given to draw their conclusion. The info is also revised often and updated as new understandings come to light. You have to make up your own mind based on them.

I wrote a novel on one sexless relationship, turning it into a psychological thriller with neo noir overtones. It follows a couple who haven’t yet broken through the standard heterosexual stereotype of marriage. Hanging onto tradition and old-world beliefs almost kills them. Enjoy reading it by ordering a copy today!

-Michael (Author of sexless story in SEETHINGS) Subscribe to blog.

The Novel ¦The Author ¦ Orde
SEETHINGS novel by Michael Forman

Sexless Relationship? Hidden Asexuality Causes It. was originally published on MICHAEL FORMAN AUTHOR

Advertisements

Review of psychological thriller SEETHINGS

Review of psychological thrillerShazam! I’m so surprised and delighted! A reader has provided the first review of my new novel SEETHINGS, posted at GOODREADS sometime yesterday! What a great gift to receive on the eve of Christmas!

If you love reading books about Sex, Lust, Murder, Psychopaths and Mystery you could read the Bible but that’s too long and boring. So instead read Seethings, the new book by author Michael Forman. It’s got the lot and more. You’ll be glued to the pages right to the very end. A very intense psychological story with twists and turns when you least expect them. A very good first novel. Well done Mister Forman.’

Download SEETHINGS from  http://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B00P2Q4YGS  (Paperback located @ https://www.createspace.com/4337560)

//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

Review of psychological thriller SEETHINGS was originally published on MICHAEL FORMAN AUTHOR

Sex: Do you like it savoury or sweet?

//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

Do you like to hug and kiss in creamy vanilla or take a chance on a crowning wildfire?98a75_orig-erotic_sensual_amor_sex_erotic_hot_ilag_picks_sexy_niki_gostaffo_pic_pebbles_1_femdom_couples_sexy_sensuous_steves_favorites_erotik_jims_sexys_erotic_bw_black_white_large

Vanilla certainly offers warmth and safety. Slow deep penetration, an all-consuming kiss and a full-body hug is genuinely wholesome. It’s like a soft, warm blanket on a cold winter’s night. It’s like fresh bread baking on the first day of a Spring morning. There’s a kind of a spiritual affirmation in this kind of lovemaking. I hope every man and woman will experience this kind of sex more than once in their lives.

Then there’s sex that takes more than a sip or two of vanilla milk.

088d647130dcb7328b09f02181d8887dWorking without a safety net is hot. When you think about it, even a first kiss has a risk because nothing in it is guaranteed. You’re completely vulnerable. It’s exciting. It’s dangerous. Fiery danger is warm and tempting. Some want that dangerous feeling in a first kiss to stay throughout all the bedroom antics. Chasing fire vulnerability and removing the safety net turns the excitement up a notch or two.

My novel is for those who live in a safety net life but know there is more in life than nets. It’s for those passionate lovers who risk chance and want to get closer to a fire. More importantly, it’s for those who only know of the fire but dream of warm blankets, fresh bread and creamy vanilla happily ever afters.

-Michael Forman (Author of SEETHINGS)

The Novel ¦The Author ¦ Order 
SEETHINGS novel by Michael Forman (This is real)

Mike has put together a strong, heart beating novel, one which the readers of ‘psychotic thrillers’ will enjoy!

(Reader) Mike M. Roleystone

Sex: Do you like it savoury or sweet? was originally published on MICHAEL FORMAN AUTHOR

Moreton Island Murder Baffles Police. Investigations Continue.

 [ditty_news_ticker id=”70682″]

 What are you looking at? I'm not a real reporter. Got you!Story by reporter: Julie Sephlia : Twitter: i.sephlia : Facebook

Moreton Island: Idyllic Murder Scene.

Moreton Island Murder
Moreton Island: Body Found Under Yacht.

Moreton Island has become the scene of a most bizarre murder which has investigators stumped. A female’s naked body was found bound and tied, caught on the propeller of a yacht anchored near Lucinda Bay.

How she got there and who she is has police scratching their heads.

Yachtsman Neil Lundy discovered the body first thing this  morning.

//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

“We heard a bump under the boat and wondered what it was. I got under it [the yacht] and saw rope wrapped around the prop… I freed it and a body popped up from below. I’ll never forget it,” Lundy said.

Police were sent to the region immediately this morning to investigate.

At this time there is no known cause of death and the name of the victim has not yet been established. All tourists have been accounted for and no one has been reported missing. Police say the victim is aged in her late teens or early twenties.

Investigations continue on Moreton Island and surrounding areas.

//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

Moreton Island Murder Baffles Police. Investigations Continue. was originally published on MICHAEL FORMAN AUTHOR

Two Cars, a Mortgage, Share Investments and a Baby On The Way.

Equity investingMost modern couples start out with little or nothing but have a long-term plan in place to get something before starting their family. 

They get a car, then another, perhaps a home. Soon, they are a two person mini-corporation with two incomes, a love-factory and the hopes to replicate themselves in children.

Young, responsible couples with good equity often want children just as the bank balance increases. It’s a case of just as their income is highest, some is taken away. A baby needs a uterus. It also needs milky breasts. For a period of time, women have to leave work to incubate and nourish their offspring. 

Society has us believing that equality exists in a well-bound mathematical construct. Men and women are the same in every way. We know the sexes aren’t but that doesn’t stop us feeling that they should be or get frustrated when they aren’t. Evolution doesn’t care for financial objectives or investment portfolios. Mathematical constructs are for mathematicians and accountants. The reality is: Children will get sick. Mothers get sick. Emotions change. Relationships change. Complications of all types will alter the timeframe on things previously written into diaries and legal contracts.

//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

Until the day comes when the uterus becomes redundant and we can have children grown without females, women will still fall pregnant and loan their bodies out to nurture children. Mitchell and Sam Felding are planning to do this right now. They are in their early thirties and chosen this year to try for a child.

They made this choice shortly after their shares turned a good profit. Twenty one point six three percent. It was a good year last year. So was the year before. And the year before that wasn’t too bad either. Several years of wise investing has put them in a position to make babies… in the regular way.

That’s the problem. The regular way is irregular.

Mortgages, cars and incomes are the regular things Mitchell and Sam do extremely well. Making babies is a highly irregular activity. So is having sex. Making love is a foreign country and they haven’t a passport between them. It’s all so very bizarre. No one knows what’s not going on between the sheets, least of all them.

She wants a child. She’s on special vitamins. They are exercising everyday and have removed alcohol from their diets. Coffee is out. Sweets and sweet drinks are off the list too. Everyone who matters knows of their plan. On paper, it’s all full-steam-ahead. Between them, these two young healthy bodies should have some virile sperm and a lush uterus any baby would be proud to show off… but for one thing: There’s no sex in this couple’s marriage to bring them together.

I said it’s bizarre, right?

One of them is living a lie and the other is supporting it. What happens next will absolutely astound you. Read it all in my new novel SEETHINGS. it will shock, frighten and horrify you.

-Michael Forman (Author of SEETHINGS)

The Novel ¦The Author ¦ Order 
SEETHINGS novel by Michael Forman (This is real)

Michael has put together a strong, heart beating novel, one which the readers of ‘psychotic thrillers’ will enjoy! – Mike M. Roleystone

Two Cars, a Mortgage, Share Investments and a Baby On The Way. was originally published on MICHAEL FORMAN AUTHOR

Little White Lies

Little White LiesWe all lie. It’s in our nature.

‘How’s your day been?’ Someone asks. ‘Very well,’ you reply with an unconvincing smile, knowing it’s been anything but that. It’s a lie we tell with ease… and we accept hearing it just the same.

It’s polite to reply with words than a grunt. It’s acceptable to answer civilly with a wrong answer than an diabolically honest one. No one really wants to know the truth besides, asking is merely an acknowledgment of existence anyway. Someone recognizes you and by answering you’re thanking them for taking the time to say something, anything, to you.

Lying is an important part of communication. It helps sustain relationships and entertains us. White lies created around things like: ‘How are you?’, Santa Claus, the answer to whether that dress makes you look fat – are woven comfortably into the tapestry of language.

There is another lie that snakes its way into conversation too.

Silence.

Don’t get me wrong, silence isn’t always a reptilian of the forked kind, sometimes it is what it is, a nil-response with zero intention. Often it’s not. In fact, rarely it’s nothing because doing nothing is doing something. Abstaining from words is not just about silence, it’s about abstinence. Sitting on fences is not nothing either. It positions a sitter between viewpoints and assigns boundaries, one for each viewpoint and another for the fence sitter’s place on the fence. That is something. That is a several somethings. Only a fool would believe otherwise. But silence can be driven by the same love-lie designed to promote and reinforce relationships.

What matters is the intention behind a lie. How do you know intention?

You don’t. That’s what trust is for. Little white lies and those truths hidden under a cloak of silence can be harmless, therefore they should remain innocent until proven guilty. Waging a war to chase down love’s intention is pointless. But the difference between these lies and the blacker ones is that, once discovered, black ones are provable. They also are backed by the darkest of intent. They go deep and cut right into the bone.

In SEETHINGS, some of the lies are blatantly obvious. They are drowned in a deep, rich blackness that engulfs a reader in so much text-poison that they cannot be ignored. This was done to set a firm foundation for the narrative. The most dangerous of all the lies written into the narrative have been swapped for the safety of silence. They were downgraded to make them look harmless. You won’t see the biggest lie coming when it hits. Your jaw will drop.

-Michael Forman (Author of SEETHINGS)

 The Novel ¦The Author ¦ Order 

Michael Forman’s books on Goodreads ratings: 4 (avg rating 4.50)

Seethings

‘Forman’s writing style is artful, with the protagonist Mitchell’s warped thought processes masterfully exposed. The author has a powerful and vivid command of language and his word pictures are stark and disturbingly real.’  – Linda J Bettenay, author of ‘Secrets Mothers Keep’ and ‘Wishes For Starlight’

 

Little White Lies was originally published on MICHAEL FORMAN AUTHOR

Logan City: Amatuer Photographers Discover Body.

[ditty_news_ticker id=”70682″]

What are you looking at? I'm not a real reporter. Got you!

Story by reporter: Julie Sephlia : Twitter: i.sephlia : Facebook

Looks pretty real to me.

Two Meadowbrook photography TAFE students taking a walk this morning discovered a woman’s near naked body in low lying grass on the banks of the Logan River.

Charlene Foley, 38 of Kingston, was last seen on Wednesday night after she told her husband she was going for a walk. She never returned.

//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

Logan City Police have released the following statement:

Perhaps this is a stock shot for trainers to use.

Police Search River Bank for SIM

‘Mrs Foley appears to have left her Kingston address at about seven thirty on the night of the 15th and then made her way down Juers St. We believe she has either met with someone or was abducted, relocating to Meadowbrook soon after. There are signs of sexual assault and we’re currently looking for a white sedan that was seen in the area around that time. We are also searching for her mobile phone’s SIM card. Cadets from Oxley will be doing a ground-search today, retracing her movements along the river, Armstrong Rd and surrounds.’

Photography student Len Skapp who first discovered the body said, ‘We were photographing insects and I said to John what’s that in the background? I thought it was someone sunbathing.’

Mrs Foley leaves behind two daughters and a son.

[ditty_news_ticker id=”70682″]


The question is: Did Charlene Foley know her killer before she stepped onto the street that night?

Yes, you’ve been drawn into reading another cutting excerpt from SEETHINGS by Michael Forman. Order your copy below and, like this post, expect the unexpected!

The Novel ¦The Author ¦ Order 
SEETHINGS novel by Michael Forman (This is real)

“Mike has put together a strong, heart beating novel, one which the readers of ‘psychotic thrillers’ will enjoy  – for the faint hearted, leave it alone!”

(Reader) Mike M. Roleystone

P.S Len Skapp? Surely you didn’t believe that did you? By the way, that name (or any other corny one like it) doesn’t appear in the narrative. I just had to indulge this post with a giggle-type-moment to see if you were paying attention. 😉 – Mx

Logan City: Amatuer Photographers Discover Body. was originally published on MICHAEL FORMAN AUTHOR