martyred loversLove hurts. When it works, lovers sail to places out of reach of earthly wants.

Its lowest will see them return to Earth to have their land-lubbered hearts ripped out.

No one plans for endings. Stories rarely close with: And they separated happily ever-after but wouldn’t it be cool if they did? Wouldn’t it be great if someone said that it’s okay to separate, divorce, go forth alone because that’s right thing to do and we did it without feeling guilty or shamed?

That’s why many of us halt the splitting process because breaking up scares us. It’s also nervy to be alone. So we play down our relationship woes, turning them into love-glitches, hiccups in the loveline, something to expect because everyone has their up and downs. And then we go on further convincing others that everything’s okay too.

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Not everything is okay. Sometimes everything is NOT okay. Break ups do happen. They really do. They’re a part of life, just like those ups and downs. When can end a relationship if we want to but not everyone wants to work that idea into their narrative. Why should love need to end? Why can’t it go on forever? It’s proper to stay on and fight for love. That’s what true-love is all about, right?

True lovers mean well – and it’s a noble quest to do everything possible to patch up the wounds and restore peace but the fight to get there often blurs peace’s real destination. That’s about when the martyrs move in. Good intentions turn into selfish wants. Sacrifices are listed off like a roll call at a children’s school. It soon becomes about who did the most for love, who was the nicest, who worked hardest.

Winning martyrWinners?

In chapter 5, SEETHINGS proves that there are no winners when things go south no matter how intense the love is. Nevertheless, those who care most will stay and fight the longest.

Martyrs demand recognition and respect. That’s what they deserve and silently expect. At a time when their self-value is challenged and falling in tatters around their feet, the real prize is restoring love to its former glory. They also want love validated and respected for all it’s worth. Sometimes they’ll go so far as to blame their partner. Unfortunately, every word spoken is often less about the partner and more about themselves.

Sacrifice is a convenient high ground, a go-to place when attacked. A little reminder of some self-sacrifice is a perfect counter-weapon. It kind of deflects inbound accusations but it also keeps us from knowing too much about the issues at hand. ‘What about me (or you)?’ is often followed by an item of equal and opposite sacrificial weight.

Some readers may relate to this statement immediately and may also acknowledge that most of the issues traded aren’t the real problem. Usually there’s an underlying issue that hasn’t presented itself and may never surface. If you’ve experienced moments exactly like these in a former relationship, you’ll know it’s just the haphazard political chatter that precedes final negotiations.

monarch martyrsMartyrs? Not likely. Martyrs don’t count their costs. They don’t place a value on sacrifice. Self-proclaimed saints are simply small kings defending tiny kingdoms. The indignity of breaking up, explaining uncomfortable issues to family and friends, converting love into disposable assets while holding a weakened head high isn’t an option. The pleasantries exchanged hereafter are cunningly disguised in self-deprecating phrases. Two pissed-off monarchs afraid of losing territory, pride or facing change, hiss at each other under every word.

SEETHINGS is about love, long-term love. It’s about two proud characters who once loved well but became martyrs to manage their endless end. The sacrifices they made were great. Their love was strong. Both gave much. Something changed. Someone died… and now they have a child planned.

Enjoy your SEETHINGS journey. It will gently torment… but it certainly won’t disappoint. – Michael (Author SEETHINGS)

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Michael Forman’s books on Goodreads ratings: 4 (avg rating 4.50)

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Michael has put together a strong, heart beating novel, one which the readers of ‘psychotic thrillers’ will enjoy  – for the faint hearted, leave it alone! – Mike M. Roleystone

Strained Love: The Last Martyr. was originally published on MICHAEL FORMAN AUTHOR

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